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Bartender Ari Moffic-Silver will serve you with a smile.

A native Chicagoan, Ari Moffic-Silver turned his eye to the wonderful world of spirits when he wanted a job that was creative, intellectually challenging, social, and of course, fun. Upon graduating from college, he began intensive training at a top professional bartender's school, learning 250 different drink recipes (virgin drinks included) while developing lightning speed (average 2.33 drinks a minute) serving skills and studying the history and science behind all the things we drink at a bar. Eventually, he graduated and became a certified mixologist, thirsty for the opportunity to share his passion and knowledge to the masses. He found his way to the newly-installed Bice Bistro where he works as a bartender and shift manager, serving with a smile. He is also enrolled in Southern Wine's Academy of Spirits and Fine Service with the intent to become an internationally certified Master Bartender.

Here are Ari's answers to your questions about famous drinkers, favorite drinks and hangover cures:

Have you ever served famous people?

Yes, absolutely! I have served Sheryl Crow some Miller Lites, the late Heath Ledger homemade iced tea, Steve Nash and Leandro Barbosa a couple vodka sodas. Some of my regulars are Ramsay Lewis, the former head of umpires at Wrigley Field, and the parents of Marisol Nichols, who starred as Nadia Yassir on the TV show 24 and does the Bally commercials.

Who are the best tippers?

Great question! It's difficult to profile the good tippers. Just because someone or a group is buying bottles of wine and spending a lot does not always mean they will tip well. If you want a good tip you are expected to provide more than just the drinks, it's also about the service and company you provide. Remember, tipping is voluntary, but all bartenders and servers make their money from tips and not from hourly wages. In the end, tips are what they are: To Insure Proper Service. If the bartender has done that, then show him or her some love!

What is your most requested drink?

At my bar, for liquor and first overall is vodka, usually Absolut or Ketel One on the rocks, no fruit. Wine has been our Pinot Nero Cortaccia 2005 from Italy, and beer is our own local Goose Island's Honker's Ale on tap.

I have always been a vodka drinker, but lately it seems that I can't tolerate it anymore. What do you think the problem could be?

I get this question often. Vodka, being a neutral grain spirit with no aroma, color or taste, is THE most accessible spirit for people to choose, so you are not alone. At the same time, the lack of flavor or aroma can become tiresome to many drinkers like yourself. I don't see it as a problem, it's possible that you have outgrown vodka. NOW is the PERFECT time to get out there, as cocktails are in a Renaissance period. Newly infused vodkas and other spirits are coming out, and exciting new recipes are created everywhere all the time. Another helpful tip: go to your local spot and chat up your bartender for suggestions on how to transition out of vodka into something else. Trust me, you won't regret vodka, there is so much more out there to discover!

Is it true that lower quality liquors make for shittier hangovers?

Absolutely not! Alcohol is alcohol, simple as that. Hangovers are multi-causal, but the main cause is the ethanol in the alcohol that causes dehydration, which leads to headaches, dizziness and other hangover symptoms. Ethanol is also broken down in your liver into slightly toxic forms of alcohol, which not only is harmful to you body but also keeps your liver from producing glucose (your body's primary energy source) which contributes to fatigue, mood swings, and decreased attention and concentration. If you are willing to put the time and money into it, you can buy lower grade liquors and a small hand filter at a liquor distributor like Binny's and filter the vodka yourself to a slightly higher proof. The ONLY CURE FOR A HANGOVER IS..........TIME! Have one glass of water, or anything with electrolytes like Gatorade for every drink you consume, and continue to drink water after you're done bar hopping. Nothing with sugar, and none of that verkachta "Chaser" pills at the pharmacy. And no aspirin before bed, it can thin your blood and increase the concentration of alcohol in your bloodstream.

What types of alcohol are really okay to drink during Passover?

As you know, part of the seder ritual requires you to drink wine (those of us 21 and older). There is an extensive list of kosher alcohol to use at any Jewish holiday at http://www.kashrut.com/articles/liquor2/ provided by the Chicago Rabbinical Council. Some of them include unflavored beers, straight burbon (Jack and Jim), and grain or potato based vodka. Be careful, there are some exceptions to the rules. Anything made with or from grapes (wine, vermouth) needs certification, and only certain tequilas are safe. Bottom line: check the label for any kosher symbols like K or ones with OU or KSA and you can celebrate and be merry!

L'Chaim!

Have more questions for Ari or need a bartender for a house party? Email him at moffic@gmail.com.

Want your voice heard? Ask State Rep. Sara Feigenholtz 

Sara Feigenholtz was first elected to the Illinois General Assembly in November of 1994. Now serving her seventh term in office, she represents three very progressive areas Lakeview, Lincoln Park and the Near North Side. As a state lawmaker, Sara has authored and championed legislation that runs a gamut of issues including adoption reform, AIDS funding, stem cell research, contraceptive equity for women, affordable and accessible health care, environmental issues and improving the quality of education in Illinois.

Here are Sara's answers to your questions about being Jewish and female in a male-dominated field, and fills us in on what those stuffed-shirt legislators are really like:

What is it like to work mostly with men?

In Illinois women make up more than fifty percent of the electorate, yet our representation in the legislature seems to always hover around twenty-five percent. What is with that?  I am not gender biased type -- however I will admit that I would like to see more women run and win elected office -- especially constitutional office and other leadership positions. After a rancorous two years in Springfield, I can't help but think that women (who are natural problem solvers) should be running the show.
 
What are the hot issues in the upcoming session? Do they overlap with the issues important in your district?

We have been tackling some very difficult issues but at this moment in time how to raise more revenues for the state is the most pressing.

In this period of hotly discussed identity politics--feminism, race--how do you feel being Jewish impacts the role you play in the State House?

My mother was a religious Jew born in Russia who put herself through medical school here in Illinois during the depression; all of this at a time when it was almost unheard of that a woman became a doctor. Most of my values came from her-- fight for justice, do the right thing, repair the world (tikkun olam), be kind to people, and work hard for what you want. My faith has a great impact on who I am.

You seem pretty hip...what kind of music do you listen to and what are other legislators like? Are they all stuffed shirts?

At first glance the Illinois House and Senate members might look like a bunch of stuffed shirts -- but look closer and you will find some fascinating and accomplished people. Talents range from classical musicians to hog callers which is a true reflection of this diverse state we live in. (south of I-80 it's all farmland, folks!)
 
Favorite Music: I love Bruce, U-2,   Genesis, Crosby Stills Nash and Young, Annie Lennox, Gipsy Kings etc.

Find out how you can get 'Fit with Krit'

At 14, Ron Krit was almost six feet tall and not even 100 lbs. He began lifting weights with reckless abandon, only to realize his approach was doing his body more harm than good. He started studying nutrition, sports conditioning and weight-lifting and committed to sharing his knowledge with others. He's been a personal trainer for 10 years and today, runs Fit with Krit, a full-service personal training business in Chicago.

Ron took some time to answer your questions about working out, staying motivated and thigh flab.

Hey Fit Krit,
Is walking at a brisk pace very good exercise?

I prefer not to run. Well, actually, I'd prefer to sit on my ass and watch "Gossip Girl," but when I do work out, I prefer long speed walks to running. Does that burn enough calories?

Thanks!
A Chicago street walker

Okay, Chicago Speed Walker (sounds better than street walker),

I think speed walking is fine. It’s easier on your joints than running and still burns some good calories. If you really want to burn calories, walk as fast as you can for a minute, slow down for two minutes, and repeat. Varying your intensity will help you burn more calories. If your knees are in good shape, I would add some stair climbing that really whips you into shape. Walking is a great start, however, it’s just part of a healthy lifestyle.  Depending on your goals, you might want to throw in some push-ups and squats while watching the WB, CW, MTV…

Hi Ron,

I have a question about motivation.

Every year I shell out a few hundred dollars to join a gym. I go for a month, or two and then one day, the motivation just leaves me. It usually takes me several weeks to force myself to go back. Do you have any tips, tricks, or ideas I could try to keep up the enjoyment of going to the gym?

Thank you,
Lazy in Chicago

Lazy in Chicago,

I see this all the time. People get uber-excited to get fit; they join a gym and pay all this money and then somehow forget the gym's address. There are many techniques that might help get you motivated. The big three motivators are: money, friends and calendars.

Money works well. If you hire a personal trainer, you’ll make sure to keep the appointment because we are not cheap. You can also have your own biggest loser, best abs, etc…contest with friends or coworkers. If the prize is something worthwhile, you’re more likely to compete.  Signing up for a six week bootcamp or other class might also help. Some classes, like my bootcamp, are fun and the short commitment period is very doable.

Also buddy up, but buddy up with someone who is already committed to staying in shape. If you partner up with someone else lacking in the motivation department, that will not work too well. Try to find a friend who hits the gym at least three days a week.

The last suggestion is to focus on your calendar. Usually it takes about 12 weeks to make something a habit. If you schedule yourself to workout three days a week at 6:30 pm for 12 weeks, it just may stick. For every week you make it to the gym, reward yourself with something small, like new music for your iPod. At the end of the 12 weeks, splurge and treat yourself to a massage or something else that makes you happy. Best of luck!

Ron,

If you're exercising to get in shape, is it true that what you eat is just as important, if not more important, than the actual exercising?

And if so, how do you continually eat right when your office building is surrounded by delicious fast food restaurants and a Dunkin' Donuts that makes the air smell like sweet heaven?

Thanks,
JunkFoodEater

JunkFoodEater,

Nutrition is half the battle. I’m not a nutritionist, but I can tell you eating right makes you feel better and helps fuel your body, allowing you to workout harder and look leaner.  With that said, don’t deprive your Dunkin' Donuts cravings. If you want a donut, get a small donut hole. If you want a cookie, eat a cookie--just don’t eat one that’s the size of your face. Try to pick out one cheat day a week and indulge in a small portion of your favorite guilty food pleasure. Make sure the day you indulge is also a day you workout. My last suggestion may sound like crazy talk but when you crave sugar, grab a pear, apple, banana or other fruit, they are high in natural sugar and that might subdue the sweet tooth.

Hi, Ron,

I know you’re a personal trainer, but you’re also a man, so here’s my question:  How important are toned inner-thighs, really?  I mean, I’m sure I’d be more confident if I had them, but I also think we women work ourselves into a self-conscious psychosis attributable to the unrealistic physical expectations placed upon us by the media. Besides, I’m almost thirty.  If 15 years of leg lifts haven’t done the trick, I’m not sure what will.

Do most men actually care about this, or can I go back to my Hagen-Daz?

-Ready to Eat

Ready to Eat,

No one, repeat, no one has a perfect body. Sure you’ll meet a few genetic freaks at the beach in the gym…but for the most part everyone has an area they are less than happy with.  I bet your inner thigh issue is more a big deal to you then people you date. That said, leg lifts or whatever your routine is might need a spark. There’s no quick explanation I can give you, but mix up your routine.  This may not be the case for you, but many people do the same exact workout day after day. Your body adjusts to your workouts and if you’re not mixing it up, you plateau. I’m not saying give up the leg lifts or whatever you do, but toss in some jump rope or squats, take a  new fitness class, hire a trainer for a few sessions…and of course, the usual disclaimer, check with your doctor and make sure you’re healthy enough…

As for the Hagen-Daz, try the sorbet, it has fewer  calories, less sugar, less fat and only a little less taste. Good luck!

Jeff, a nice Jewish boy

Jeff is a graphic designer and the kind of boy your  mom always wanted you to date. Last week, we offered you the chance to get advice from this self-proclaimed expert dater. This week, we bring you his answers to your questions about love, relationships and the innerworkings of the mind of the nice Jewish boy.

Dear Jeff,

Let’s say I go out with a nice Jewish boy on a two or three dates. I think he’s a really good, not-psycho guy, but I’m just not feeling the chemistry. He feels otherwise and asks me on another date. What is the best way to have the uncomfortable “I’m just not that into you” conversation with a nice Jewish boy without hurting his feelings?

Thanks,
Nice Jewish Girl

Y’know Nice Jewish girl, I love games. Board games, video games, baseball games, football games, etc. But I HATE relationship games. When you enter the “dating game” you take the chance of getting hurt. If you go out with a guy(or girl) and you’re not feeling the chemistry...end it. And end it now. Let him know the truth so he can move on to find someone who DOES match up well with him.

Believe me, I know it’s hard to end a relationship, no matter how brief it may be. And I’m guessing most people don’t do a very good job at it. You don’t want them to get hurt, but you also don’t want them to hate you. I know I’ve ended a couple relationships with about as much skill as a one-legged unicycler (sorry for the bad simile). And I’ve also been on the other end.

Maybe it takes practice to get good at it, but I hope you don’t find that out.

Are you just going to keep saying yes every time he asks you out, until you finally just blurt out two months later, “I can’t do this anymore!”? It’s nice that you’re thinking about his feelings, but if that’s true, you know what must be done.

Dear Jeff,

Settle the debate once and for all...My girlfriends and I go to lots of Jewish Chicago parties. Do you guys like to be approached by women or do men prefer the “chase.” Enlighten me, NJB!

Anonymous, Chicago

Obviously, I can’t answer for all men, but personally, I wouldn’t mind if a woman approached me at a party. If you like someone, talk to him. Yes, years ago, if a woman walked up to a guy and asked him out, a hush would fall over the crowd, as all eyes stared at this woman they all deemed “easy.” But we’re not in that time period anymore. Women...if you like a guy...ask him out. If you just sit there at the bar, staring at some cute guy, hoping that by telepathy, you can get him to walk over to you, keep on waiting.  And the truth is, he’s probably just as nervous as you are at being rejected. So now you have two people at a party, who could possibly be a perfect match, but never meet because both are to shy to make a move.

That said, I’m sure there are plenty of guys out there who like the rush of walking up to a girl and getting her number all on his own. But should you really count on the cute one you’ve had your eye on all night, being that guy?

Hi Jeff,

I went out with a guy who seemed great--a teacher who was dedicated to his students, a  volunteer at a nursing home, etc. After we’d gone out twice, he invited me to his mom’s for Shabbat dinner, and asked me to call him mid-week to confirm the time. When I called on Wednesday, he was “in a meeting.” When I called again on Thursday,  he was “unavailable.” I never heard from him again. I am happily married now, but I have always wondered what that was all about. 

My first thought after reading you’re question, was “Wow!” And to be honest, I even consulted a fellow “nice Jewish boy” just to get his take on your man in question. Initially, I couldn’t tell what was going on with this guy but in the end we agreed that the answer to your question is the ever-popular phrase, “he’s just not into you.” That being said, he did a great job of being really rude, inconsiderate, etc. I’m sure you can find more appropriate adjectives.

The first red flag I noticed, was that he wanted YOU to call HIM to confirm the time. Wouldn’t it have made more sense for HIM to call YOU? In doing so, he has essentially removed himself from any further responsibility in your young relationship. All he now had to do was cleverly dodge your calls. Even seemingly great guys who volunteer at nursing homes and love teaching kids, may be really bad at ending relationships.

No matter what his true reason for his avoidance, he did you a favor. You later found a man who happily answers the phone when you call.

I have a question for “Jeff”...

Being a graphic designer sounds like a job where you have to sit stagnantly in front of a computer for a large portion of your day. How, if at all, are you able to stay fit and trim?

Signed,
MeWantFood

Great question, MeWantFood.
Indeed, I do spend many hours a day sitting in front of my computer screen, with only a few precious moments where I’m able to get up, stretch and get a quick bite to eat. With this sedentary block of time during my day, “graphic designer spread” is a serious concern for me. So how do I combat this?

Exercising, healthy eating and avoiding the single most evil food we put in our mouths...WHITE BREAD!
But if exercising gets in the way of your watching “The Hills” and those new mint flavored M&Ms keep you from eating healthier and you just can’t avoid the sweet siren song of a slice of white bread, then always remember that as a graphic designer, you have access to something even more powerful than Botox. You have the Photoshop airbrush tool. Just apply around the jowls as needed, and you’ve got yourself a perfectly fit photo.

Last week, Galit Greenfield wrote a stirring essay about Yom HaZikaron, touching on the issue of mandatory service in Israel.

How do you feel about Israel's requirement?

Do you think the U.S. should have a mandatory military or community service requirement?

How do you think that would impact our country?

We're holding off on the usual hot topic this week to let you know about one way you can help the victims of this week's devastating cyclone in Myanmar.

Tens of thousands of people have lost their lives in Myanmar and many are left without any basic nesessities. The Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Chicago has opened an emergency mailbox to funnel humanitarian aid to the country.

100% of collected funds will go directly to aid the victims--the Jewish Federation will not deduct any administrative costs. These funds will support humanitarian, non-sectarian needs on the ground, where hundreds of thousands of cyclone survivors are without shelter and safe drinking water.

Individuals can contribute online or by phone at 312.444.2869 or by mail, making checks payable to:

    Jewish Federation Myanmar Cyclone Relief Fund
    c/o Jewish Federation of Metropolitan Chicago
    30 S. Wells St.
    Room 3017
    Chicago, IL 60606

J Street, a PAC with a corresponding pro-peace, pro-Israel lobby formed by prominent Jewish Americans launched April 15, and, according to executive director Jeremy Ben-Ami, the goal is to take on the pro-Israel giants, particularly the American Israel Public Affairs Committee, where they are the most powerful: in Congress.

The group has a projected annual budget of $1.5 million--a fraction of the nearly $50 million AIPAC spends -- and is backed by an advisory council of more than 100 former elected and government officials, prominent political donors, rabbis, organization heads, and academics.

The new group's launch video takes aim at several prominent non-Jewish conservative supporters of Israel, as well as Morton Klein, the president of the Zionist Organization of America, suggesting that their criticisms of the current peace process do not represent the views of many American Jews. According to JTA, AIPAC declined to comment about the J Street launch; insiders said it was watching the new group with interest but was not overly concerned. Malcolm Hoenlein, the executive vice chairman of the Conference of Presidents of Major American Jewish Organizations, says he is doubtful that J Street is going to have a significant impact on U.S. policy.

Read more:
www.jstreet.org
U.S. Jews Create New Lobby to Temper Israel Policy
New Group Using Web to Counter AIPAC
New US lobby group aims as pro-Israel alternative to AIPAC
Doves launch J Street initiative

So what do you think of J Street?